Don’t say that Sang Yu is late, for it is still full of clouds. In the face of the epidemic, there are such a group of old policemen in Pudong Public Security Bureau. Although they are all 59 years old and nearing retirement, they are not afraid of risks, volunteered and faithfully performed their duties. At the last moment of their careers, they still stuck to the "epidemic" line and stood on the last post, contributing their own strength to the tough battle against the epidemic in Shanghai.

　　Chen Yongguan: Stand on the last shift.

　　"Hello, please show me your pass and nucleic acid test report." On the morning of May 13th, Chen Yongguan, a community policeman of the Academy Police Station who will retire the next day, still set up a card on Lingang Avenue to check the passing vehicles and personnel, wearing strict protective clothing. After the strict inspection as required, he did not forget to remind the other party to pay attention to protection. If necessary, he would also send some dry food to the passing truck drivers on the spot.

　　"Come on, I have some bread and biscuits to take with me on the way." Chen Yongguan always prepares some food in the car recently, so that he can lend a helping hand in time when he meets someone in need. This is because Chen Yongguan met a truck driver who came to Shanghai from other places for help when he set up a card inspection last time. The food on the other car was exhausted and he was unable to sustain it for a while. Fortunately, Chen Yongguan still left his own box lunch on the car, so he gave it to the other party together with bread, which helped him solve his urgent need and later helped him contact relevant departments to solve the problem of eating. Since then, Mr. Chen has developed the habit of preparing food in the car every time he goes out.

　　Although Mr. Chen is going to retire soon, he has always been at the forefront of the war. Maintaining the order of nucleic acid detection points, setting up checkpoints and patrolling the streets, wherever there is a need, there is his figure. On the afternoon of May 13th, the institute prepared a simple retirement ceremony for Mr. Chen. Although a few people were present because of the epidemic, colleagues in the institute sent blessings through video connection. "I always wanted to retire and have a good rest before, but when I retired, I was more and more reluctant." He couldn’t bear to part with purplish blue, let alone his comrades-in-arms and residents like "family".

　　Zhou Longxiang: It’s not time to have a rest.

　　"All the secret personnel have got on the bus. Let’s go." With the order of Zhou Longxiang, a community policeman from Yishuiyuan Police Station, two transfer buses carrying secret personnel slowly drove out, and Zhou Longxiang drove the police car all the way to ensure that the transfer buses arrived at the isolation point safely.

　　Zhou Longxiang, who retired more than two months ago, has always stuck to his post and fought in the front line of fighting the epidemic since the outbreak of the epidemic in Shanghai in March. He has been dealing with the masses for 30 years, and he has been recognized by the residents in his jurisdiction. During the epidemic, it was he who made the residents here feel at ease.

　　After the transfer bus arrives at its destination, Zhou Longxiang, who has completed the escort mission, will still say hello to the residents on board. "We have arrived at our destination, but it may take some time to move in. Please be patient and so on. There will be time for everyone to rest in the next few days." Before leaving, a few words of ridicule suddenly relaxed the originally nervous residents. Someone who knew Zhou Longxiang joked, "Officer Zhou, why don’t you come in and have a rest together for a while?" "I’ll forget it. I haven’t had a rest yet. I have plenty of time when I retire." In a burst of laughter, Zhou Longxiang immediately drove to the next mission site.

　　Ding Mingchu: Fighting continuously for more than 50 days.

　　Ding Mingchu, a 59-year-old comprehensive policeman of Zhuqiao Police Station, has been fighting continuously for more than 50 days. Every day, from maintaining the order of nucleic acid detection points at the beginning, persuading residents to abide by "staying indoors" to setting up checkpoints and investigating "black riders" today, the only constant is Ding Mingchu and his comrades who have been sticking to their posts.

　　"Officer, I have nowhere to go. What should I do now?" On a street duty, Ding Mingchu met the residents for help. The other party has been stranded outside because of seeing a doctor. When he returned from this rehabilitation, he found that his community was closed and managed. Because the nucleic acid test has not yet produced results, the other party could not go home for a while. If it weren’t for Ding Mingchu’s timely appearance, he would probably be sleeping on the street with nowhere to go.

　　"I don’t know when this report will come out. I’d better help you find a place to live first." Ding Mingchu, who has 37 years of police experience, quickly judged the crux of the matter, and immediately contacted the relevant departments of the town after calming the other party. Finally, he was successfully placed in a temporary shelter, which solved the problems of temporary accommodation and eating. The next day, the negative report of the other party’s nucleic acid test was successfully released, and he also successfully returned to his long-lost home.

　　Zhang Wenhu: Go retrograde and fight for the front line.

　　Zhang Wenhu, a community policeman from Beicai Police Station, is about to retire in August this year, but when he knew that the police needed to be deployed to reinforce the front line, he immediately found the leader to take the initiative to fight. "I am a community policeman. I have been doing it for so many years. I am more familiar with how to communicate effectively with residents." In this way, he and 17 other policemen formed an anti-epidemic vanguard, dressed in dense protective clothing, and retrograde settled in nine administrative villages in Beicai area, fighting at the forefront of the war epidemic.

　　For more than a month, Zhang Wenhu, like other young policemen, has been busy helping to carry out various epidemic prevention work, such as the transfer of positive cases, close contact personnel, the maintenance of nucleic acid and antigen testing order, staying at home, and the policy and legal publicity and notification of all inspections. Tired and sleepy, go back to the "camp" to take a nap, or sleep in the car, or live in a simple tent. Today, the epidemic situation has improved, but Zhang Wenhu dare not relax, still stick to his post and strictly implement various epidemic control work.

　　Chen Yongguan, Zhou Longxiang, Ding Mingchu, Zhang Wenhu … … They are all members of the public security team in Pudong, and they are the epitome of more than a thousand retired old policemen in Shanghai. They don’t have earth-shattering and vigorous stories, but they stick to them day after day. A purplish blue, purplish blue life. They interpret the responsibility and responsibility of the police with their own sincerity and practical actions.

Jin and Liu Cuiping are discussing how to make a video with traffic.

After 6 o’clock in the morning on September 27, just after picking figs, gold was broadcast live.

　　"Have you increased your powder recently?" They greet each other like this.

　　Gold grows figs and Liu Cuiping raises peacocks. The base of the two people is on a hill, less than 1 km apart, but they rarely see each other.

　　At noon on September 27th, they met unexpectedly in Zhangfei North Road and sat down for lunch by the roadside.

　　Both of them were born in 1986. Two years ago, Gold was the senior operation manager of the glory of the king Mobile Games, with an annual salary of one million. Three years ago, Liu Cuiping was still engaged in real estate sales in Beijing and opened a real estate sales company in Guangyuan, Sichuan, which also earned a lot of money.

　　Then, why did they suddenly transform and return to their hometown to become farmers? To this end, Chengdu Business Daily-Red Star journalists conducted an in-depth interview with them.

　　run

　　Using short video platform overhead path

　　I am most concerned about "Is it getting pink recently?"

　　Seven or eight kilometers away from Langzhong City, Sichuan Province, National Highway 212 passes through a mountain pass, to the left is Liu Cuiping’s peacock farm, and to the right is the golden fig base.

　　On September 27th, Jin got up at 4am and picked figs with his brother and sister-in-law and four villagers invited. The weather is cold and the dew is heavy. You must wear rain boots when going to the fields. But the grass is deep and leafy, and the trouser legs are still wet with dew.

　　As soon as the fruit was picked, it was immediately repackaged and sent to more than 10 stalls in the city at 7 o’clock on time. After 9 o’clock, he drove the van to send the figs ordered online to the courier company for delivery.

　　On Zhangfei North Road, it was Liu Cuiping who stepped on the brake and opened the door. Liu Cuiping is preparing a PPT for a speech. When she meets gold, she wants to "ask for help".

　　But when they met, they first asked, "Is it pink?"

　　"It has risen by more than 10,000 this month. What about you?"

　　Liu Cuiping plays Tik Tok, and Gold plays Aauto Quicker, and they all shoot short videos. The video of Liu Cuiping holding a peacock for praise has more than 2 million clicks. This is her most "hot" video. It has only been three or four months since she officially updated the vibrato video. At present, there are 30,000 fans, and her goal is to reach 300,000 fans in two years.

　　Gold’s Aauto Quicker account has also been opened for several months, but its popularity is much slower, but he thinks his fan conversion rate is better. Gold also posts in forums such as Aika and Tianya, which are updated every day and broadcast live in Aauto Quicker. The fans of several platforms add up to tens of thousands.

　　"The conversion rate is high because my figs are cheaper." Gold says that a box of figs costs only tens of yuan, while a peacock egg costs 100 yuan, and a peacock costs 2,000 yuan. Not everyone can afford it.

　　In addition to shooting short videos, Liu Cuiping also does live broadcasts. Compared with gold, she is fully equipped, bought a tripod and a live microphone that can fill the light.

　　When she broadcast live, she introduced her own farm, peacock and pheasant. Some netizens left a message in the live broadcast room, "Sister Peacock, sing a song." She giggled and told people that "Sister Peacock doesn’t sell art, she only sells peacocks". She is sweet and lovely, and 80% of the live broadcast rooms are male netizens.

　　Just after picking, the gold was also broadcast live, eating figs live, how to sort and package, how to plant them, and introducing that the orchard with weeds has not used herbicides and fertilizers. A netizen entered the live broadcast room, and he greeted him next to him. "Come, welcome the old irons … …”

　　On the morning of September 27th, there were only more than 10 online viewers in the live broadcast room. He said that it was very touching that someone came to watch my live broadcast so early. In the live broadcast room, some people asked to buy fruit, and some people asked to buy seedlings … … He answered patiently one by one.

　　After a little leisure, he would sit on the ridge and look up at the sky, lost in thought. In this state, he also made his own Aauto Quicker video, and he often posted it late into the night in the forum, recording in detail his own figs in the past two years. He said that he "sucked powder" by sincerity and hard work.

　　In this regard, Liu Cuiping has another view. She said that she should be "new, strange and unique, and she should seize the audience in the first three seconds" and "sometimes she has to be thick-skinned" … … As soon as she shook her hair, she acted like a wait for a while, then turned and walked into the pheasant pen and went to catch the pheasant with open arms. She told Jin, who was holding a mobile phone, that she must shoot a feeling of "very dragging".

　　one’s original intention

　　I’m afraid I won’t have the strength to re-plan the future in a few years.

　　Under the hill, it is Jingu Village in Shaxi Street. Grapes and peaches are planted in the village, which has long been a piece of scale, and some people have invested in building luxurious farmhouses. The local government is also trying to build the village into a cultural tourism project with drainage ability around the ancient city of Langzhong.

　　At first, Gold "quietly returned to the village", and contacted a familiar village cadre for consultation. The other party directly advised him not to come back.

　　When Jin was a child, his family was poor. He was the first college student in the village to be admitted to an undergraduate course, and he made a fortune in a big city. He worked in Tencent with an annual salary of one million, so everyone should give a thumbs up.

　　Come back to farm, everyone thinks this choice is unwise. In April 2017, he began to come back to see the land. It was not until October that he officially signed a 100-mu land transfer contract with Murakami that he told his brother and sister-in-law who were working outside. Brother Huang Jun became angry with his younger brother, but it was too late to stop him.

　　Gold left five years’ living expenses for his wife and children, and returned to the village with 2 million savings and a quilt. He said that if he couldn’t do it in five years, he would admit it and then go back to Chengdu to continue to find a job.

　　In fact, at that time, he was planning to start a technology company with several partners. Deng Jia, his former colleague in Tencent, told the reporter that he was shocked when Jin told him that he was going to plant fruit. This colleague, who runs games and deals with data and players every day, "crossed the border too much". But now he sees the marketing of gold to his orchard, and he still feels the shadow of his Internet days.

　　Liu Cuiping started to do real estate sales in Beijing. After resigning, she ran a real estate sales company in Guangyuan, Sichuan for several years, and the income was very good.

　　In 2016, she came back to raise peacocks. Its farm, located in Wufeng Village, Shaxi Street, was the house and land that my uncle bought when raising silkworms. When my uncle stopped raising silkworms, she took the site from my uncle.

　　Over the past three years, Liu Cuiping’s peacock farm has invested more than 2 million yuan. At present, it is far from returning to the original, and the monthly income and expenditure can only be basically the same. Liu Cuiping said that she has suffered a lot in recent years. Last time a TV station interviewed her and talked about these bitterness, she cried herself.

　　Speaking of the original intention of starting a business, Liu Cuiping laughed and said that it was "hot head" at that time. Gold’s understanding of "fever" is that he is about 30 years old and wants to re-plan his future. "A few years later, I am afraid that I will not have this strength."

　　future

　　Representatives of new professional farmers hope to lead more villagers to find a good way out.

　　In April 2017, Jin resigned from the game company, took his wife and children for a trip, and then officially returned to his hometown to bury his head in farming. He is extremely low-key and afraid to contact his colleagues and friends in the past. For a whole year, his circle of friends has not updated his movements. He is afraid of failure and "criticism", which many people don’t understand and he doesn’t want to explain to others.

　　It was not until the end of May 2018 that the orchard began to bear fruit that he took a group of photos in the circle of friends and introduced himself as "one year of silence, intensive cultivation in October, 100 acres of orchard … …” Friends just "watched", and there were more than 200 comments and praises at once.

　　A neighbor wanted to invest in planting with him, but he refused. "At that time, he had no bottom in his heart." He was afraid of losing money. "All this money was saved by their frugality." In the Spring Festival of 2019, he began to introduce his orchard and his long-term planning to the villagers. At present, he has received phone calls from seven villagers, saying that he will plant figs this winter and ask him for seedlings.

　　Liao Youjun, who works in Shenzhen, is a primary school classmate of Gold. He said that when Gold came back, it was hard for him to understand that he had to give up such a good job and come back to farm as a farmer. When he came home for the Spring Festival this year, he saw Jin "pulling branches and tying strings" alone in the field. He really looked like a farmer, but he was impressed. He has been working in Shenzhen for more than 10 years, but he feels that he will return to his hometown sooner or later, so he is considering planting figs with gold. "Just next to his orchard, start with a few acres of land and step by step."

　　Jin said that he expects to recover the cost next year, but the goal is far from being achieved. His ideal is that the whole village will plant figs, so he desperately does online marketing. Langzhong City can digest 1,000 Jin of figs a day, and its own 100 mu can be sold locally, but if more villagers plant them, he will try to sell them to distant places.

　　Liu Cuiping also sells her own pheasant seedlings and peacock seedlings online. Recently, she is preparing to open a peacock noodle restaurant in Langzhong ancient city, where peacock handicrafts and peacock eggs are displayed and sold offline. She spared no effort to "raise the powder", but also felt that with more fans, she could "bring goods" and drive other villagers to raise them.

　　Tan Chaolin, the stationmaster of the Science and Education Station of Langzhong Agriculture and Rural Bureau, is familiar with gold. He said that gold moved him and made him admire. This young man has confidence, determination and ways. His internet work experience made him do a very good job in marketing. The Agricultural and Rural Bureau specially invited him to give lectures. He was sent to Sichuan Agricultural University to study before. As a result, when he introduced his experience, he suddenly became a "lecturer".

　　In Tan Chaolin’s view, under the background of rural revitalization strategy, gold is a typical representative of new professional farmers. Tan Chaolin said that he is also very confident in the fig of gold, and the relevant government units will also give strong support to this project, so that gold can play a leading role in the local area.

　　Regarding online marketing, Liu Cuiping is also deeply touched. In the past six months, she has traveled to three provinces and five cities, all of which are for investigation and study, some at her own expense, and some are organized by the government. She said that in Yiwu, you can find various anchors and online celebrity by searching people nearby on WeChat, but in Langzhong, the marketing of traditional industries is still in the traditional routine.

　　At the gate of Liu Cuiping’s farm, there are several government-made signs, and the local government also strongly hopes that they will take the lead and lead more villagers to find a good way out.

　　The day before the new subsidy standard for new energy vehicles was officially implemented, the power battery market ushered in a big change.

　　On June 24th, the Ministry of Industry and Information Technology issued an announcement (No.22, 2019), indicating that it decided to abolish the Specification Conditions for Automotive Power Battery Industry (hereinafter referred to as "Specification Conditions") from June 21st, 2019 (Announcement No.22, 2015 of the Ministry of Industry and Information Technology), and the first, second, third and fourth batch of enterprise directories meeting the specification conditions were abolished at the same time. This means that the "white list" of power batteries for new energy vehicles, which existed in the industry for four years, was officially cancelled and withdrew from the stage of history.

　　Where does the "white list" of power batteries come from, what impact will its disappearance have, and what will be the trend of the competition pattern in the power battery market? The reporter exchanged and discussed with many experts and scholars in the industry on these issues that people care about.

　　Has helped the rapid development of the power battery industry.

　　In 2015, when the new energy vehicle market in China was booming, a large number of independent brands launched new energy vehicles intensively. As one of the core components of new energy vehicles, the situation of power battery market at this time is not so optimistic.

　　"Due to the low production threshold of low-end power batteries, stimulated by high subsidies, there are too many manufacturers in China’s automobile power battery industry, with uneven technical level and generally low technical strength." Liu Zhichao, an auto industry analyst, recalled.

　　In fact, by the end of 2014, there were as many as 177 supporting manufacturers of power batteries, while the sales of new energy vehicles in 2014 were less than 75,000. At the same time, there are as many as 1,600 new energy vehicles in the Announcement of Vehicle Manufacturers and Products.

　　It is not difficult to see from the huge gap between the sales volume of new energy vehicles and the types of products that many enterprises made low-priced and low-quality new energy vehicles in order to "cheat" at that time. Obviously, such enterprises can’t make a difference in the technological exploration and growth of power batteries.

　　More importantly, Japanese and Korean battery companies saw the market potential of new energy vehicles in China at that time. These enterprises have long been eyeing the local market in China. In this case of "internal troubles and foreign invasion", except for a few enterprises, the vast majority of local power battery manufacturers have entered a critical moment of life and death.

　　In view of this situation, in order to promote the healthy and stable development of the new energy automobile industry, on March 26th, 2015, the Ministry of Industry and Information Technology issued "Specification Conditions", clearly requiring that from May 1st, 2015, power battery enterprises should make online declaration according to the requirements of the Specification Conditions through the "Management System for Automobile Power Battery Production Enterprises". New energy vehicles can only enter the Recommended Catalogue for Promotion and Application of New Energy Vehicles if they are equipped with power batteries in the "white list", and then get subsidies.

　　Subsequently, the Ministry of Industry and Information Technology successively released four batches of enterprise catalogues that met the "Specification Conditions", and a total of 57 enterprises were shortlisted. Since then, four batches of 57 power battery and system enterprises have entered the white list.

　　Nowadays, the number of new energy vehicles in China has jumped from less than 75,000 in 2014 to an industrial pillar with an annual sales of 1.256 million vehicles. At the same time, domestic power battery enterprises also increase investment and research and development.

　　"We can see that in ‘ White list ’ Under the guidance of, excellent power battery enterprises such as Contemporary Amperex Technology Co., Limited, BYD, Lishen and Funeng have emerged in the domestic power battery industry. The low-end factories that had been shoddy and sought subsidies were also forced to switch to sub-sectors such as electric bicycles, power tools, energy storage and low-speed vehicles, and domestic batteries entered an era of steady and rapid development. " Liu Zhichao said.

　　Power batteries enter a new era of market competition.

　　Although the "white list" of power batteries has helped the rapid growth of the power battery industry and the new energy automobile industry. However, with the development of new energy automobile industry in China, the "white list" no longer meets the development needs of the market and industry.

　　“‘ White list ’ It has a strong correlation with the subsidy for new energy car purchase. As the subsidy continues to decline, the subsidy will disappear completely in 2020, and the order-oriented role of the white list will also fade away. " Liu Zhichao said, "‘ White list ’ During its existence, the policy has played a guiding role in industry norms. Local battery companies have generally reached the standard in standardized operations, and the competitive pattern within the industry has emerged. During this period, market regulation will play a greater role than policy norms. "

　　He also believes that the "white list" not only protects the market share of power batteries, but also actually misses the golden time when China power batteries should make great efforts to curb the innovative research and development of power batteries by car companies to some extent.

　　Nowadays, under the new market competition, the "white list" has completed its original historical mission. And its withdrawal has also become a signal of the pattern change of the power battery industry and even the new energy automobile industry.

　　"The cancellation of the battery white list is a major new energy benefit, which is conducive to full competition in the industry, to the construction of a stronger industrial chain system, to the launch of new energy vehicles of international car companies in the China market, and to the reduction of costs and better battery resources of independent brands. It is a good thing to reflect the deepening of reform and opening up and greatly promote the development of the automobile market." Cui Dongshu, secretary-general of the National Passenger Car Market Information Association, said bluntly that due to the influence of the "white list", the pace of domestic new energy vehicles of some international car companies was slow, and it was also very difficult for these companies to switch to domestic batteries. Therefore, the release of battery control this time is conducive to the industrial development of international car companies in China, resulting in the "catfish effect" and promoting the new energy industry to make further progress.

　　With the official cancellation of the "white list", it is generally believed in the industry that Japanese and Korean power battery enterprises will enter the China market on a large scale. With the entry of Japanese and Korean battery companies, new energy vehicle companies have more choices. An analysis report of South Korea’s securities industry also believes that in the next three years, the foreign investment of Korean power battery enterprises will reach 10 trillion won (about 58.5 billion yuan), of which nearly 40% will be invested in the China market.

　　Although the involvement of Japanese and Korean power battery companies will increase the intensity of market competition, Cui Dongshu is optimistic. "In those days, mobile phone manufacturers such as Apple and Motorola entered the China market, which brought great help to the construction of mobile phone industry chain in China. Similarly, the entry of foreign battery companies will stimulate the development of the domestic industrial chain, promote the technological upgrading of independent supporting products, and realize the integrated development of industries. "

　　Beijing, Jan. 23 (Yu Wang): "Swimming, fitness, find out." I don’t know when, you can always hear such a voice at street intersections. Behind it, in addition to countless gyms springing up like mushrooms after rain in recent years, it also reflects the rise of the national fitness boom. However, correspondingly, although more and more people walk into the gym, it is more common to give up halfway. Why on earth is this happening?

　　According to the White Paper on Fitness Industry in China in 2016-2017 published by relevant institutions, the fitness population in China has increased at an average annual rate of 10% in recent years, and the awareness of national fitness has become stronger and stronger. Fitness has gradually become one of the public’s concerns at present and in the future, and national fitness has become a trend.

　　At the same time, the gym has become the choice of more people with fitness needs. According to the Report on Market Demand Forecast and Investment Prospect of Gym Industry in China from 2017 to 2022 released by Zhiyan Consulting, the size of China’s gym market will approach 90 billion in 2017, and it is expected to maintain a compound annual growth rate of 12% in the next five years, reaching 123 billion yuan in 2020. In addition, according to statistics, there are currently 37,627 gymnasiums in China, the number of which has surpassed that of the United States.

　　Why do gyms get more and more people’s favor? Some experts said: On the one hand, gyms provide rich equipment to meet the needs of different groups of people, and can provide different choices for different body parts that need exercise; On the other hand, commercial gyms are generally equipped with professional coaches for guidance. While enhancing physical fitness, you can gain a good figure and get the maximum effect in limited leisure time, which is in line with the pain points of the current urban population.

　　However, when people apply for a fitness card at a high price after careful choice, how to develop the habit of continuous fitness has become an oncoming problem for many newcomers in the gym. In the face of day-to-day exercise, strict diet control, laziness or even giving up has become a common phenomenon of this group of people. Some insiders revealed to the reporter of Zhongxin. com: "At present, 70% members of the gym can’t develop the habit of continuous fitness."

　　Wang Qian, who works in Beijing, is one of these 70%. A year ago, she was attracted by the gym leaflets distributed downstairs by the company, and she applied for a fitness year card not far from the company. However, after insisting on going there several times, Wang Qian found that fitness was something that she found hard to accept. "The process of fitness is very boring and tiring, and it has a high control over diet."

　　Wang Qian, a company project, has been very busy for a month, and she finds it hard to summon up the courage to go into the gym. Every time after work, Wang Qian will rush through the gym, and in her spare time, she will find various reasons to convince herself. Over time, Wang Qian completely lost interest in the gym.

　　Wang Qian told reporters that if she hadn’t tidied up her purse some time ago, she would have forgotten that she had ever had a fitness card. As for why she wanted to go to the gym at the beginning, she had already thrown it away, so without any hesitation, she threw this fitness card into the depths of the drawer.

　　Although friends around me mentioned this matter, they all felt sorry for her money hitting Shui Piao, but Wang Qian, who has always claimed to be a "Buddhist youth", said: "Why do you have to embarrass yourself and do things you don’t want to do?" After the fitness card expired, she naturally did not choose to renew it.

　　As the owner of a gym with thousands of people in Beijing, Qiao Liang believes that the reason why many people give up is that their beliefs are not firm enough. "In fact, fitness will not only bring about qualitative changes to the body, but also temper the mind." He said, "To be able to walk into the gym and stick to it, this person’s will and mentality must be very good. Relatively speaking, if he can’t stick to it, there are impetuous factors in it, except subconsciously."

　　Qiao Liang revealed that according to statistics, the annual renewal rate of the gym he runs is less than 20%. Apart from factors such as changes in the living environment of members, this data also reflects that there are still many people who lack long-term fitness plans. "The number of people who can persist in one year is even less." Qiao Liang said that this situation is widespread in Beijing.

　　To measure whether a gym is professional, besides the number and types of equipment and the variety of courses, the professionalism of fitness instructors is also the most important thing to inspect. Undeniably, the fitness instructor not only plays a multiplier role for the bodybuilders, but also provides them with the function of accompanying and supervising. There are also more than one bodybuilder who told reporters that their ability to keep exercising has a lot to do with the fitness coach.

　　"Fitness is to eat better things." Yang Jing said that what the coach said to her on the first day of fitness became the biggest motivation for her to grit her teeth and enter the gym every day.

　　As a new media editor, Yang Jing, who graduated only two years ago, not only developed the habit of sedentary due to work, but also "swelled up" at a speed visible to the naked eye. "My salary has not risen much, but my weight has risen a lot. Every time I go home on holiday, my family will sigh that I am fat again."

　　At the same time, knowing that she doesn’t have strong enough perseverance, whenever she makes up her mind to step into the gym, how to stick to it has repeatedly become the main reason why she flinches before "getting a foot in the door". Finally, six months ago, following the advice of a friend, Yang Jing got his first fitness card and hired a personal trainer.

　　But in the first class, the strictness of the coach made Yang Jing, who didn’t like sports since childhood, suffer enough. It never occurred to her that a coach who usually looks polite can almost be described as "heartless" in every class. "There are 20 opening jumps in each group, and I have to do four groups. I have no strength when I sit in the third group, but the coach will only let me rest for a while and then finish the rest." Yang Jing said that "being lazy" became a forbidden area that she couldn’t reach in the gym.

　　High-intensity training courses often make Yang Jing ache all over the next day and can hardly get out of bed. But what made her collapse even more was that when she told the coach about this and hoped that the coach could reduce the workload of the next training as appropriate, all she got was "just practice more." So she had to bite the bullet and walk into the gym again as planned.

　　Nevertheless, Yang Jing has to admit that the existence of the coach has benefited him a lot. "If there is no coach, I can’t complete these movements at all, and I may give up halfway." Yang Jing said frankly that the coach’s company and encouragement can eliminate her fatigue and boredom during exercise.

　　At the same time, the coach also told Yang Jing to write down her progress and the whole fitness process, because it can give you a sense of accomplishment, and help you understand how far and how fast she ran or walked, how much calories she burned, and how much progress she made. Use these to challenge herself and set new goals.

　　Today’s Yang Jing will consciously go to the gym to exercise even if there is no coach’s supervision. "Sometimes I don’t go to the gym for a few days, and I always feel uncomfortable without anything." After every party, Yang Jing would go to the gym for a run and sweat, which she said would reduce her "guilt".

　　On the question-and-answer platform of Zhihu, one question asked, "How do you stick to fitness after you get a fitness card?" The Q&A has been read by nearly 500,000 people and caused extensive discussion. Some netizens said, "If it’s so painful to insist, don’t go." Some netizens also said: "I have gained attitude and courage to face life from fitness. So I insist and hope that I will pursue it to the end. " "It is worthwhile to plan ahead for health, no matter how difficult it is."

　　Some people think that the gym exists to meet those who need to exercise but have no equipment and suitable environment, so they should become a bodybuilder first, and then they will become a bodybuilder who needs a gym. Qiao Liang is deeply impressed by this.

　　He believes that bodybuilders should change their cognition from "I have to go to the gym" to "I want to go to the gym". The key to "insisting on going to the gym" is not whether to go to the gym or not, but whether you think it is important to improve your physical fitness from the bottom of your heart and actively adopt different training methods to strengthen yourself. "

　　Five years ago, when Jia Xuan first stepped into the gym, he was shocked by the intense atmosphere in front of him and countless muscular bodybuilders. Since he was weak, he also hoped to become healthier through fitness.

　　In order to avoid exercising aimlessly in the gym like a headless fly, he made a rigorous fitness plan for himself from the first day and approved it every 4-6 weeks. "The information is all found online, and setting a plan and goal can help me stick to it better."

　　Jia Xuan believes that it is also very important to have a "comrade-in-arms" who fights side by side during the fitness process. "Going to fitness with friends will help to better implement the fitness plan and support and encourage each other." Jia Xuan said, "There will be situations where friends compete secretly, but this is also a competition with themselves. Over time, they have developed the habit of continuous breakthrough."

　　What impressed Jia Xuan most was that the gym at that time was not large, and when there were many people, there would be many people queuing to use one equipment. When he lamented that there were so many people, an "old gun" in the gym told him, "Nothing, you will never see most people again in a few weeks." Sure enough, most of them went every other day to every three days, then every five days, and never showed up again.

　　"I don’t think that the so-called insistence on going to the gym and running can really bring me a sense of superiority or enhance my attractiveness. For me, when the novelty of fitness fades, it is more a lifestyle and habit that is naturally formed for health." Jia Wei said. (At the request of the interviewee, some characters in the text are pseudonyms) (End)

　　On the morning of the 2 nd, Ms. Lin, who lives in a community in Longchi Street, Liuhe District, Nanjing, went out early in the morning and found a teenager in school uniform squatting in the grass next to the unit building; When Ms. Lin came home at 5 o’clock in the evening, she still saw the child sitting there, with almost no change in posture. She called him and he ignored him. The abnormal behavior of the teenager worried Ms. Lin, and she called the police for help. The police arrived at the scene and learned that the teenager was a junior three student, and his uncle lived in this building. On that day, he stayed here in cut class for one day to play mobile games on his uncle’s WiFi, which made the mother who came to the scene angry with Ms. Yu.

　　The reporter’s investigation found that the popularity of smart phones and children becoming "mobile phone controllers" have become a common worry for many families. Yangzi Evening News All-Media Reporter Ren Guoyong Correspondent Lu Gongxuan

　　A crazy teenager.

　　Sit in the grass and rub my uncle’s wireless network to play games.

　　Cut class, a teenager, squatted down to numb his legs and feet one day.

　　"There is a big boy I don’t know downstairs who has been sitting in the grass all day. I don’t care if I call him. Come and have a look." At 5 o’clock in the evening on the 2 nd, Ms. Lin reported the police.

　　After receiving the police, the police of Longchi police station arrived at the scene to check that a teenager was sitting downstairs in a unit of the community. He sat under his schoolbag cushion and held his mobile phone intently.

　　"He has been sitting here in this posture. I saw him when I went out in the morning. I didn’t expect him to be here when I came back in the evening. I don’t know what happened. I called him and he ignored me." Ms. Lin said that she noticed that the child was also enthusiastic and worried about what bad things would happen to him.

　　The policeman walked next to the teenager, and he was still absorbed in playing with his mobile phone, unaware that the policeman was approaching. The policeman patted him on the shoulder, and the boy suddenly got up, but he almost fell down because of numbness in his legs and feet. "What are you doing here?" In the face of the police’s question, the child bowed his head and did not answer, only saying that he had something to do.

　　After repeated inquiries by the police, he said that his surname was Cao, and he was in the third grade of a nearby middle school. His uncle lived in this building, and he squatted here to play games on the Internet with his uncle’s WiFi. "I didn’t do anything bad, I just wanted to surf the Internet." He said.

　　Subsequently, the police contacted Cao’s mother. Cao’s mother was surprised when she received the phone call, saying that she didn’t expect her son to go to cut class to play games, and spent a day squatting downstairs in her brother’s house for surfing the Internet.

　　Soon, Cao’s mother rushed to the scene angrily, and immediately scolded him for being unprincipled again and again in order to surf the Internet. Cao’s mother said that her son secretly bought a mobile phone with a birthday red envelope given to him by his elders a month ago. After the parents found out, they criticized him and advised him to return the mobile phone, which was awkward. Later, the parents confiscated the mobile phone, but I didn’t expect him to take it away from his family and come here to play. "He must know that my brother went out these days before he came here to surf the internet. The senior high school entrance examination is coming soon, and he is still so confused."

　　The police also persuaded and educated Cao, and Cao said that he would make up his mind to quit playing mobile phone addiction and prepare for the exam carefully. The police also reminded Cao’s mother to communicate with her children more often, divert his attention from playing mobile phones, and persuade her in time if she has bad habits. After the exchange between the two sides, Cao followed his mother home.

　　Parents’ troubles

　　Smashed the phone, and both girls cried sadly.

　　Do you want to buy it for your daughter now? Mom is very entangled.

　　"I want to use regret to describe my current mood. Now I am in a dilemma!" Ms. Zhang from Laifeng Community in Nanjing told the Yangzi Evening News reporter that her daughter had bought a children’s mobile phone in order to facilitate contact, and she could only answer the phone.

　　But later, my daughter always said that all her classmates used smart phones, and they used smart phones to check their study materials online. Ms. Zhang was hesitant at first. After discussing with her husband, she felt that the times were developing and her daughter’s ideas were reasonable. It might be helpful to use smart phones to access information. Later, I bought my daughter a smart machine with a price of more than 1,000 yuan. After using the smart phone, my daughter quickly played on WeChat and Weibo.

　　"We think there is nothing wrong with sending WeChat Weibo, but now the situation is getting worse and worse." Ms. Zhang said that her daughter’s grades plummeted and the teacher even found her playing mobile phones in class.

　　After discovering the problem, Ms. Zhang began to control her daughter to use her mobile phone. But when my daughter does her homework, she asks her for a mobile phone to consult the information from time to time, but sometimes she finds that she is using QQ or WeChat.

　　Ms. Zhang asked her daughter how to chat? The daughter’s answer is to exchange learning problems with her classmates. In this way, the daughter’s learning efficiency is getting lower and lower. Not long ago, I found my daughter playing small games until the early hours of the morning, and there were novels in the trace of mobile phone search. I clicked and found that my daughter was reading a "messy" article. In this way, the mother and daughter quarreled many times for the mobile phone, and in the end, she smashed the mobile phone.

　　"I smashed my daughter’s mobile phone, and both girls cried. She ignored me for two weeks, and I was heartbroken." Ms. Zhang said that recently, her daughter repeatedly assured her to study hard, proposed to buy a mobile phone again and promised to use it only for consulting materials and communicating with classmates. "I am very entangled, I am afraid to buy it for her, and she can’t control it." Ms. Zhang said.

　　Online small survey

　　Children are forbidden to use smart phones? Not all are objections.

　　In two examples, children have become "mobile phone controllers", which annoys parents. So, at the moment when smart phones are so popular, should children use smart phones? The reporter made a small survey through his circle of friends.

　　Should primary and secondary school students use smart phones?

　　The online survey lasted for one hour, and 51 people voted.

　　A: About 84% are against it.

　　Some parents who indicate the reasons think that underage students are addicted to their opponents’ opportunities, which are difficult to control, and most of them are used for entertainment.

　　B There is one case in which the parents fully agree with the opinion.

　　This parent believes that smart phones are the general trend, otherwise they will be out of touch with society.

　　C about 14% supported by conditions.

　　This part of parents believe that children need to attach conditions to the use of smart phones. If they want to use them, they must know what their children’s purpose is, and it is ok to check the study materials.

　　Teacher’s opinion

　　Every time a parent-teacher meeting is held, many parents complain to the teacher. Children can’t live without mobile phones all day. Should they use them? How can I quit cell phone addiction? Jiang bo, a senior teacher and grade leader of a senior middle school in Nanjing, said — —

　　Even using a mobile phone to check information has great disadvantages.

　　Jiang bo thinks that the only advantage for students to use smart phones is that they are easy to contact.

　　"Access to information is a cover. I found that the questions and answers of some so-called learning software are copied from each other, and there are many mistakes and typos. Students who are used to finding answers online lose the ability to think independently. I strongly appeal to students from primary school to high school to stay away from smartphones." Teacher jiang bo thinks that students who are used to finding answers through the Internet will have a decline in their habit and ability to use reference books, and their learning efficiency is very poor. Usually, they click on a window and another one pops up on the Internet. Students are so curious that they can’t control their reading that they can’t concentrate on completing their homework. Indulging in mobile phones is not good for health, typically, the eyesight drops, and you can only see farther if you look up. Holding mobile phones all day long causes some students to have poor face-to-face communication skills; Some parents are afraid that their children will be out of touch with society without using smart phones. This kind of worry is unnecessary. Mobile phones, like computers, can be learned as soon as they are learned, and there is no need to hold them every day. The mobile phone network has a search function, so it is difficult for parents to monitor whether the content they read is healthy or not.

　　Parents should set a good example for children to quit cell phone addiction.

　　How to quit cell phone addiction? Teacher jiang bo said that depending on the situation, some parents are strong and radical. If they don’t agree to their children’s demands, they will not agree, confiscate their mobile phones and shut down the Internet. Some students have problems in their early education, and their parents have not established an authoritative image at home, and they can’t do the three chapters of the contract. Even if their mobile phones are confiscated and the network is cut off, the effect is not good. Some parents can’t stand the soft grinding and hard foam, but still return their mobile phones to them. When the mobile phone is smashed and the network is closed, it will stimulate such children’s rebellious psychology and stronger curiosity about smart phones. A better way is for parents not to hang their heads all day playing with their mobile phones, but to turn off the home network skillfully, such as changing passwords, limiting traffic, limiting phone bills, and reading famous books on paper. Let children know that mobile phones are just tools and toys, and do not deny that mobile phones are getting more and more fun, but there are more exciting things in life. Parents should take their children to participate in colorful outdoor activities on rest days to divert their attention from mobile phones.

　　● Children’s voice

　　Hungry for respect, disgusted parents smash mobile phones.

　　Yangzi Evening News reporter also communicated with some middle school students. Some students also admitted that mobile phones are basically used for entertainment except making phone calls and finding answers. Sometimes parents will get angry with them after playing for an hour or two.

　　"I am more disgusted with my parents’ tough tone, and it is even more unacceptable to smash my mobile phone." Liu Tong Jr. said that sometimes it was late at night when he was playing with his mobile phone, and he knew that it was not good for him, but the momentum of his father rushing in made people sad.

　　Liu Tongxue Jr. said that even if he made a mistake, he hoped parents could communicate in an equal tone. "Confiscation when you come in is disrespect and distrust," Xiao Liu told reporters.

　　The teacher’s truth is in place, and the child’s voice should also be heard. But have you noticed that children are actually concerned about the same problem at a different level from us adults? They are more concerned about the attitude of parents when dealing with the use of mobile phones than whether they use the mobile phones themselves.

　　Therefore, we want to remind parents that every child has his own personality characteristics, and parents should consider their children’s situation comprehensively, find a communication method suitable for them, and handle this "mobile phone problem" well.

　　From Ode to Joy, Everything’s Fine to My Sister, every film and television work of "Brothers" involving the issue of son preference will always become the focus of public opinion.

　　—————

　　On April 10th, the total box office of the movie My Sister broke 600 million.

　　The story of My Sister takes place in a patriarchal family, and the relationship between brother and sister is estranged. However, after her parents died in a car accident, her sister "Enron" faced a dilemma: giving up her dream of developing in a big city and raising her younger brother "An Ziheng" by herself; Or let others adopt their younger brothers and pursue their own independent lives?

　　Sister’s entanglement and pain can be imagined. In some families, brothers and sisters who are determined by blood will feel resistant and alienated from each other.

　　From the TV series Ode to Joy and Everything is Fine to the movie My Sister, every film and television work of "Brothers" involving the issue of son preference will always become the focus of public opinion.

　　The reporter of China Youth Daily and China Youth Network interviewed several "sisters" in real life and the creator of My Sister. Some sisters refused to go to the cinema to be "abused" because of problems with their younger brothers; Some sisters, crying uncontrollably during the movie, went home and wrote a long diary to review the story with their younger brother for more than ten years; Some sisters decided to have a good chat with their parents and untie the knot.

　　My Sister is not just a multiple-choice question. Do "sisters" have to choose between independence and sacrifice? How should parents of two-child families establish a healthy and positive educational concept? Female growth, brotherhood, and the concept of two-child family education … … These are issues that we need to examine outside the film.

　　"Where am I from" is a problem that everyone can’t get rid of.

　　Yin Xi, a girl born after 1995, has a younger brother who is 7 years younger. At first, she was poked in tears by the trailer of My Sister. This kind of experience, experienced people will understand, self-knowledge, not one or two simple labels can be summarized.

　　"I think of going home in the winter vacation in the first grade of primary school. My parents claimed that they had picked up a younger brother from the hospital gate. At that time, I had no feeling at all about this sudden extra child, because he suddenly appeared in my life, and my parents didn’t give me any time to warm up and accept."

　　This kind of brotherhood came from "airborne" without warning, especially when Yin Xi was young, she spent a long time accepting the fact and "reconciling with herself".

　　"When I see the plot of" My Sister ",I will think of the night when I was unaccompanied from the first grade to the fifth grade of primary school. On the night of power failure, I read a book with a flashlight, and I was very sad why my mother took my brother to my grandmother’s house but ignored me; During a rainstorm, the water in front of the school reached my knees, and all the children next to me had adults’ backs. I refused my strange grandmother’s kindness and walked alone with an umbrella. When I got home, I found that my mother actually came back. While helping me change my socks, I asked why I didn’t let the people next to me hold me. "

　　Yin Xi was puzzled for many years about her position in her parents’ hearts and why her younger brother existed. She felt that her world had "no mother" for quite some time. When she was in junior high school, she was complaining that her younger brother had "taken away" her mother.

　　Yin Xi said frankly that after recognizing the fact of "stealing her mother", she once disliked her brother very much. Until Yin Xi went to college and returned to school during the winter vacation, he accidentally found his fifth-grade elementary school brother and secretly wrote on the mist in the mirror of the sink: "Goodbye, sister, can you leave later?" At that moment, Yin Xi felt a sad mood in her heart, reflecting that she didn’t seem to be a good sister, and her brother would miss her when she was not at home.

　　"It took me a long time to make up with myself. My mother didn’t want me, but my brother also needed care." Therefore, Yin Xi feels that Enron’s alienation and entanglement with his younger brother in My Sister is real, and his desire to protect his younger brother is also real.

　　You Xiaoying, the screenwriter of My Sister, said that she would pay more attention to the "family" element when creating. "I think it is possible for a person not to experience love or have children in his life, but ‘ Where do I come from ’ It’s hard to break free. You can choose your friends and lovers, but parents and children can’t choose, just like my uncle said ‘ Children are debts ’ This debt was doomed from the beginning. "

　　You Xiaoying said that family has a profound influence on a person, so she wants to discuss women’s situation and self-growth from this aspect and express "the collision between family fetters and personal pursuits".

　　A bowl of water is flat, and good family of origin helps us tide over the difficulties.

　　After 90, Gugu, a media person, is 6 years older than his younger brother. After watching My Sister, her colleagues ridiculed that Gugu is not like a "sister" in the traditional impression of the public, because the whole person "can’t see the feeling of sacrifice".

　　"Now some people’s views are a bit extreme, opposing women’s independence and sacrifice." Gugu thinks that when it comes to elder sister, many people either think of pathetic "helping the younger brother" or "selfish ghost" who is too self-centered. These two impressions are too rigid. Why can’t elder sister and younger brother live in harmony and develop independently of each other?

　　After work, Gugu, who is financially independent, bought his younger brother a computer as a gift, considering his learning needs. My girlfriend was deeply impressed by the generosity of Gugu and sent a circle of friends. As a result, her friend commented at the bottom: "Ah, is this sister Fan Shengmei in Ode to Joy?"

　　Gugu was quite helpless when he learned that: "Why do you label all your sisters with bitterness without any understanding?"

　　Gugu and his younger brother have always had a good relationship since childhood, and his younger brother likes to stick to himself when he is at home in primary school. Gugu middle school lives on campus and goes home once a week. When you get home, you will see your brother sitting at the door waiting for you.

　　"In the final analysis, the misfortune of Enron in My Sister comes from the wrong idea that parents prefer sons to daughters. My brother and I can have deep feelings all the way ‘ Priming ’ I would like to thank my parents for always insisting on a bowl of water, not treating my brother and sister differently, and not ignoring my emotional needs. " Gugu also saw that families with bad relations between their brothers and sisters often caused wars because of their parents’ "willful preferences", causing emotional troubles for innocent brothers and sisters out of thin air.

　　Whether a good and fair educational atmosphere is formed in family of origin is very important for the cultivation of healthy and sunny brotherhood. In family of origin, where the environment is good, children with brothers and sisters may be better able to take care of the feelings of all members, and learn to share the pressure of parents’ roles and the potential risks in the period of family instability earlier.

　　Yin Ruoxin, director of My Sister, said frankly: "Everyone’s family of origin can’t be perfect, but a good family of origin can really protect you. The impact of the problematic family of origin will grow on the body, and it doesn’t know when it will emerge. "

　　In Yin Ruoxin’s view, family of origin’s influence can only be solved in a completely corresponding way. "When you are older, you will form a close relationship yourself, and then you will be able to solve those problems, but it is also possible that these traces will always be there."

　　You Xiaoying also believes that a good family of origin can help us to get through the hard times and cheer up.

　　"I have some friends, you think she is a completely independent woman, live very self, but she will find how many traces of family of origin in a moment. Family of origin’s shaping of character is still very profound, sometimes when you are unconscious. " You Xiaoying said.

　　Sisters independently do multiple-choice questions in life

　　Yoga Yu refused to go to the cinema to see My Sister — — Her younger brother is rebellious, and he is favored by his parents (focusing on the issue of education funds), so Yoga Yu foresees that watching movies is an act of "self-abuse".

　　However, Yoga Yu went to read the relevant comments in Douban and Weibo. She said that at this stage, I am afraid that I can’t solve the relationship problem with my younger brother, and the relationship with my parents is also "dark clouds rolling" from time to time, but she doesn’t want to be deeply entangled in the dilemma, which is tantamount to wasting time and emotions. It is better to actively live a good life in a big city and work hard for her career.

　　Yoga Yu firmly believes that no matter whether the relationship between elder sister and younger brother is hot or cold, the first priority is to stick to the path you want, which does not conflict with anything.

　　In the Douban review of My Sister, a "younger brother" said that he felt indebted to his sister. "As men and younger brothers, what can we do for our sisters? Perhaps we should start by respecting their will, understanding their plight and supporting their voices! "

　　It is undoubtedly commendable that "My Sister" directly pokes the pain point of the topic of "independent growth of women".

　　In the film, the role that forms a strong sense of dramatic contrast with Enron is the aunt. After Enron’s parents passed away, my aunt was the first to stand up and say the words "eldest sister is like a mother", telling Enron that the most important task now is to bring up his younger brother. This "moral kidnapping" is naturally easy to cause extreme discomfort.

　　Later, the audience found out that my aunt was the "elder sister" who was forced to sacrifice herself in the previous generation. She once dreamed in the distance, but now she can only read Russian to Russian dolls to pay homage to the youth destroyed by the words "eldest sister is like a mother".

　　You Xiaoying pointed out that the kindness of my aunt’s nature in the movie was suppressed by the daily necessities of life, but when Enron inspired her inner things, my aunt actually hoped that Enron could replace her to complete the image of a rebel. She saw another possibility in Enron’s life and didn’t want to stop it.

　　Arranging the dialogue between two generations of "sisters", You Xiaoying thought of the image of "Taowa". "Finally my aunt said ‘ Dolls don’t have to be put into the same condom, and they have to go their own way ’ It means that you can have your own life choices, and you don’t have to follow the path planned by everyone like your aunt. This is my aunt’s love and understanding of Enron. "

　　The ending of the movie is open, and there is no clear answer. Sisters outside the movie still have to do every question in life.

　　Yin Xi said that her younger brother, who is now in the third year of high school, "quietly grew up" in her invisible time. One of them is that under her influence, my brother is determined to pursue his dream of life independently, instead of reaching out to his parents for a better life. People need independence. Parents have paid a lot to raise themselves. The future involves personal problems. Parents help you because they love you, not because they have to. After all, you are an adult.

　　Gugu, who lives and works in a big city by her own ability, is also pleasantly surprised to find that her younger brother’s habits and values are subtly influenced by her. "Sisters always give priority to their own lives. If they have independent sisters, they will have independent brothers".

　　(At the request of the interviewee, Yin Xi, Gu Gu and Yoga Yu are pseudonyms)

　　Zhongqingbao Zhongqingwang reporter Shen Jiequn

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Intimacy plays an extremely important role in most people’s lives. But even the same pursuit of love, what everyone wants from an intimate relationship is different.

So, what do you pursue in love? Last week, we collected this question from everyone and received many people’s different understandings of love. Let’s have a look. Is there the one you are looking for?

01.

Loyalty, incomparable loyalty.

I am not a person who puts such characteristics as loyalty and singleness in the first place, and I never use a certain standard to ask each other. But after two times of betrayal and deception in my feelings, I realized that loyalty is a very important standard for me, but I used to regard it as a "default" condition. However, not everyone obeys this principle by default in their feelings like me. So, I began to regard this loyalty as my first emotional standard. If you can’t do it, don’t both.

02.

I hope that I can be a listener and confidante with my lover, and share my experiences and feelings all my life. When you see fireworks and puppies, send them to each other as soon as possible or save them in a mobile phone photo album for him to see. When chatting, you spit and cry without scruple, and never hide the darkness and fragility.

03.

What I pursue in love is a unique passion and a long-flowing romance. Whether it is passionate love when I was young or companionship when I was old, the spark of love is different and gorgeous every day, and every bit of life exudes a romantic atmosphere.

04.

I’ve always longed for a close diamond cut diamond love.

My predecessor and friends around me say that I am sometimes too strong, and I admit it. My personality seems to be more suitable for a typical relationship of "women are strong and men are weak", but I am partial. I know myself. Only when the other person is really strong and confident, let me appreciate and admire from the heart and feel pressure at the same time, will I stay in this relationship with satisfaction. I wonder if I can meet such a person again?

05.

I only pursue passionate and short-lived romance and passion in love. I don’t believe in long-term love. I believe those love stories that are full of daily necessities, but I deeply doubt whether such feelings can be called love in the end.

What I want is the purest love, even if it is only for a few hours. I don’t want to last long, just love.

06.

Eager to be seen.

After many years of marriage, he never ignored my efforts and all my living habits and preferences. Is it because he is a science and engineering man?

After reading "My fragrance", I doubt whether this marriage is really worth it.

07.

As soon as I say it, you will understand. Or, you’ll understand before I tell you.

08.

I am extremely looking forward to a person who can give me justice! This fairness is for my personal feelings, not the kind of fairness that both sides come and go.

I always measure whether I am more happy or unhappy when I am in love, because I think the essence of love is also a trade-off. The accumulation of positive emotions is gain, and the accumulation of negative emotions is loss. When I lose too much, I must stop loss in time. Therefore, there will be a balance in my heart. When unhappiness is obviously more important than happiness, I will break up even if I endure the pain. After all, my happiness is the most important.

Don’t say anything like "Are you happy for each other’s happiness?". When you fall in love with your brain in the early stage, you may take pleasure in sacrificing yourself to fulfill each other, but in the long run, something will happen.

09.

What I have been pursuing is to be myself with ease and peace of mind.

10.

In love, I feel that I am eager to be loved. Maybe it’s because of family of origin that she has become very fond of her brain and is changing, because it’s really not good.

11.

Tacit understanding. Always speak in unison or say what the other person wants to say.

12.

What I pursue in love is the little happiness in plain life. I can wake up every night to tuck me in, go home from work and run into the kitchen to finish the housework I’m too lazy to do, wake up in the morning and deliberately scratch me like a kitten’s paw, and then run away. Like a child in front of me, I can go all out for my career and be my strongest backing when I am anxious. There are so many warm things at ordinary times that I can’t remember them at the moment. In short, when I think of him, I will laugh, from the heart.

13.

I hope both of us can remain sincere. Give love sincerely, express it sincerely, face yourself sincerely, and treat this feeling sincerely.

14.

What if you don’t even want to pursue love?

15.

Absolute honesty and trust. Maybe it’s too idealistic, but I want both sides to be naked and unreserved in a relationship, not mindless, but to give their backs to each other completely and enjoy the rainbow together through thick and thin.

16.

What I pursue in love is tolerance and attention.

I am a person who can’t take care of myself and has a lot of small temper. I need my partner to tolerate and accept my living habits, take care of me like my parents and make me happy. At the same time, I also need a lot of attention, and I need him to respond every time when I seek attention, and I can provide some interesting suggestions when I am bored. Although my current partner is not the same as my checklist, he is patient, tolerant and responsive. I can be happy every day and have more energy to focus on what I like.

17.

I want a friend who can talk to me and always talk to me. Passion in love is often unsustainable. Compared with lovers, it is better to be close friends who can talk about life philosophy from poetry and songs.

18.

Absolute possession, absolute freedom

Possession means that we all know clearly that "you are mine". Freedom means that we have independent space and time for each other.

19.

I always hope to find a partner who can share my views, discuss various topics and even debate with me. I am a typical "broad but not refined" person, who knows a lot and is interested in everything, but rarely stays in a pit for a long time. So I hope to find such a person, so that I can share and discuss with her at any time. It would be better if I can hold different views. I prefer to seek common ground while reserving differences, and I can respect each other while developing our ideas.

20.

I want a comfortable relationship. When I get along with each other, I don’t need too much scheming. I can say whatever I want and do whatever I want. I can be myself with confidence and boldness. The other party likes my advantages and can tolerate my minor faults, so both of them can feel comfortable and at ease in the unique magnetic field.

21.

I pursue a partner who can empathize with me and always support me.

I have a lot of thoughts in my feelings, and I am a sensitive person. Sometimes I cry easily. Even my parents sometimes can’t understand my emotions and behaviors. Therefore, I hope my future partner will be a person with strong empathy and can give me affirmation and comfort when I am sensitive and fragile.

Probably it is also a sensitive reason. Although I have a lot of ideas, I am often not confident. I gave up as soon as others persuaded me to quit. But if someone around me can give me a little affirmation, I will actually rush. I hope my partner can be such a person who will support my decision when I am not firm and let me realize my ideas more freely.

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That conviction and peace of mind. Even if you don’t reply to the information in time, you won’t be too worried or angry; Will share interesting news and photos in the first time; When good dishes are served, they will be fed without opening their mouths; Don’t stick together, do what you like, and come and ask for a hug from time to time … Good love should not make you anxious.

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Why do you have to pursue something in love? I think every relationship in my past has its own unique bright spot. The reasons why I love everyone and cherish every relationship are also different, and there is nothing I pursue in my relationship.

KY author said:

When I was a teenager, I thought about the meaning of love to people. Later, when I grew up, I found that this question had no meaning at all, because there was no fixed standard answer, only the best answer for everyone.

Just like the answer sheet of life, each has its own reasons and its own wonderful things. Quantifiable standards such as money, status and life span are not worthy of being measured.

However, the appearance of various voices and answers is not to disturb the audience, but to provide a "reference answer", a possibility of "not yet seen".

We put the answers on the table, surround and examine them, like going shopping in the mall to buy shoes, holding them over and over in our hands, and trying to put them on for two steps. I can see that it is infinitely good in the future, and I can also see the bad things that need to be endured behind the glamorous fantasy. Then I finally decided, "Well, that’s it" or "Let’s see".

In any case, the choices you make have to be borne by yourself, just like the shoes you buy are put on your feet. You may not notice whether they look good or not, but only you know whether they are comfortable or not.

I hope we can all know what we want, find what we want, and what we want is the most suitable.

In the concept of dating, Shanghai girl Zhou Jie is indeed a bit "crazy". Under the traditional mindset of marriage equality and matching, Zhou Jie’s road to marriage seems to be getting narrower and narrower. With the increasing age and persistence in the inherent concept of mate selection, Zhou Jie has been "single". Looking at Zhou Jie, who is too high to be low, the girlfriends who are in a hurry have "pulled" her to his interest! Girlfriends think that so many people have successfully found the right partner in their own interests. How can Zhou Jie not?

To tell the truth, although Zhou Jie has always had some difficulties in making friends in marriage and love, and her personality and feelings have always been somewhat cold, she has a well-off family and a rich life working as a dance teacher, which can be called "high quality" in all aspects. No matter in his family in the same city or in his live broadcast room, Zhou Jie’s interaction with her friends will always show her high artistic talent and always attract the attention of many opposite sex. There are more and more opposite sex who take the initiative to chat up Zhou Jie in his interest, but Zhou Jie doesn’t seem to "call" them.

Including Zhou Jie herself and her girlfriends, no one expected the opportunity of true love to come. One day, a young man from Yunnan named Yang Hui finally let Zhou Jie "fall" in love. The two people were introduced to each other automatically by the system through his interesting voice speed matching function. Zhou Jie likes Yang Huifu’s magnetic voice, which is gentle and special. In the following interactive communication, Zhou Jie learned that Yang Hui came from a small town in Yunnan and worked hard in Shanghai alone for many years. She was particularly smart and motivated. Although family background, education and appearance are not as good as Zhou Jie’s, many of Yang Hui’s ideas and attitudes towards some things are surprisingly consistent. Their sense of tacit understanding and mutual understanding make them deeply attracted to each other at the same time.

Every day, there are endless topics to talk about in his interest, and there will be endless happiness when he is with him. Zhou Jie is more and more aware that marriage equality, door-to-door matching and so on are not the whole of true love. Love doesn’t have to be born in the same background, but based on the spiritual harmony and mutual understanding. In this relationship, Zhou Jie and Yang Hui changed each other and grew together. Two people choose each other, Zhou Jie has changed the traditional concept of marriage and love, and the small town guy has also achieved the counterattack of marrying a Shanghai girl.

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